In a world built for neurotypicals, ‘Just Your Normal Missfit‘ is my journey into understanding and celebrating neurodiversity. Join me weekly as we explore learning disabilities like ADHD and dyslexia through personal stories, expert insights, and practical strategies. We’ll challenge the traditional education system and discover alternative paths for growth. This podcast is for parents, educators, and anyone who has ever felt they don’t fit in.
Navigating Life Without a Label: ET’s Journey Surviving the System
About the Guest: ET / Aarush Ray
ET is a 20-year-old college student who struggles with reading, but has never been formally diagnosed. In a world where labels can be empowering or limiting, ET made a conscious decision to navigate his academic and personal challenges without one. In this raw and honest conversation, ET opens up about what it means to live with invisible struggles. From hiding reading difficulties to managing the emotional toll of not fitting into school systems, this episode offers a powerful reminder: not every story comes with paperwork, but every story matters.
We talk about masking, misunderstood intelligence, and the fear of being “found out.” We explore what self-worth looks like when you’re always just about managing, and why ET chose to focus on coping mechanisms instead of clinical validation. Through his quiet courage and self-awareness, ET offers a perspective that is rarely heard—one that challenges how we define support, resilience, and success.
The Themes
- Masking and missing signs, even as a psychology student
- Rejection sensitivity and how it sabotages relationships
- ADHD and high intelligence: the underdiagnosed “smart kids”
- Emotional dysregulation, school struggles, and adult burnout
- The truth about meds, motivation, and managing stigma in India
- Why our education system is failing neurodivergent minds
- How can we rethink parenting, diagnosis, and self-worth
Unmasking ADHD with Shannon Fernandes
About the Guest: Shannon Fernandes
Shannon Fernandes is a psychologist, existential researcher, and the founder of Cowork—a neuro-affirming productivity space that challenges how we work, think, and relate to time. He is also the author of Epistemology for Psychological Research and a content creator who has helped bring conversations on ADHD, neurodivergence, and identity into the Indian mainstream.
Shannon takes a deeply reflective, existential approach to ADHD, questioning how we learn or function and why we are expected to conform to certain definitions of productivity, intelligence, and success. A neurodivergent individual himself, he bridges academic research with lived reality, bringing clarity to concepts like motivation, attention, masking, and agency.
His work explores the tensions between diagnosis and identity, structure and freedom, assessment and understanding. Through Instagram, his psychometric startup CogVerge, and his teaching, Shannon is building a bold, alternative lens to see ADHD—not as a deficit but as a different way of being.
You can find him on Instagram @dionysy or explore his professional offerings at topmate.io/dionysy
The Themes
- How to parent or teach a child who “just gets by”
- The inner world of an undiagnosed reader
- Coping without assessment: What does help, and what doesn’t
- Intelligence as a mask for learning differences
- Shame, fear of exposure, and school avoidance
- Why some people choose not to get diagnosed
- What support looks like when you’re figuring it out alone
Navigating ADHD: Insights with Coach Sonal Singh | Just Your Normal Missfit
About the Guest: Sonal Singh
Sonal Singh is an internationally recognised, ICF-certified ADHD and Family Coach—widely regarded as India’s first trained and certified ADHD Coach. With over 25 years of diverse experience, including roles at Dow Jones Newswires, Aon Hewitt, and McKinsey Knowledge Center, she combines evidence-based strategies with her lived AuADHD perspective. Sonal specialises in coaching adults, parents, and groups, as well as guiding organisations to build neurodivergent-friendly workplaces.
Beyond her coaching endeavours, she serves as CEO of a nonprofit empowering vulnerable communities. Her multidimensional expertise and compassionate approach help individuals unlock their full potential, fostering personal growth, resilience, and lasting transformation. Sonal’s journey began when a close family member was diagnosed with ADHD, which propelled her to explore child and adolescent mental health and family therapy. This personal encounter led her to formal training as an ADHD coach, and she now brings her lived experience and expertise to help others harness their strengths and navigate the challenges of ADHD.
You can learn more about her approach and offerings on her website, sonalsinghcoaching.com and reach her at [email protected]
The Themes
- The emotional journey of receiving an ADHD diagnosis
- The power of validation and the impact of timely intervention
- Strategies for managing ADHD, from building executive functioning skills to embracing alternative approaches
- How to leverage intrinsic motivation and create structured yet flexible support systems for lasting change
#ADHD #Executivefunctioning #normalisingdisability #Parenting #Neurodiversity #Empathy
Parenting, Autism, and Inclusion with Chitra Paul
About the Guest: Chitra Paul
Chitra is a strong advocate for participatory inclusion and the power of neurodiversity. She considers herself an Ally of the Autistic Community and is extremely passionate about communication inclusion. She firmly believes in the power of lived experiences and the need to include autistic individuals in all aspects of life, including but not limited to those concerning them. She strives to follow the tenet – “Nothing about us, without us!” in every sphere of her life, professional and personal.
Chitra completed her MA in Special Ed and Inclusion from the University of Northampton, UK, and her work involves training special educators and empowering parents. Being trained in the philosophy of Social Role Valorization greatly influences her work; she occasionally contributes as an Associate Faculty for Keystone Institute India. She is also trained in the practice of Narrative Therapy which she uses in her work to support parents of children with autism.
Allinclusive Foundation is an organisation that Chitra Co-Founded. The organisation based in Bangalore works to change environments to make inclusion a reality. The role she considers most precious and the one that constantly inspires her, though, is that of being a parent to her 19-year-old autistic son.
The Themes
- The emotional journey of receiving an autism diagnosis
- The importance of alternative communication methods
- Creating truly inclusive spaces at home, school, and work
- The role of technology in supporting neurodivergent individuals
- The Gendered Impact on Caregivers
- The ‘disappearance’ of neurodivergent individuals with high support from society as they grow older
#Autism #Inclusion #normalisingdisability #Parenting #Neurodiversity #Empathy
How One Educator Transformed Learning for 1,000+ Children with Disabilities
About the Guest: Mangala Jayachandran
Mangala Jayachandran is a pioneer in the education sector and is known for her work on disability and inclusion. With over three decades of experience, Mangala shares her journey from teaching dance in Bombay to developing inclusive education models at Lady Andal School in Chennai. She discusses the challenges, strategies, and successes in integrating special education into mainstream schooling, emphasizing the importance of empathy, open-mindedness, and a solutions-based approach. This insightful conversation highlights the essential role of teachers, parents, and the community in shaping a supportive educational environment for children with learning disabilities.
The Themes
- Strategies to build empathetic classrooms and foster truly inclusive learning environments
- Transformation of Special Education over three decades
- The importance of strong partnerships between educators and parents in driving student success
- Flexible & Personalized Assessments
- Challenge societal misconceptions and embrace a positive narrative around diverse learning profiles.
- Creative use of available resources to enhance support for students
#SpecialEducation #InclusiveEducation #EmpathyMatters #TeacherParentCollaboration #LearningDisabilities #FlexibleAssessment
Creating Inclusive Spaces: Understanding Special Education with Sharmila Jois Vellal
About the Guest: Sharmila Jois Vellal
Sharmila is a special educator with over 20 years of experience in inclusive education. She is the founder-director of Anantha Academy for Special Education, where she creates safe spaces for children to thrive at their own pace. Sharmila is also a co-founder of Ishanya Center for Special Needs and Eka Educational and Charitable Trust. She serves on the board of SERPA, advocating for the rights of children with disabilities across Karnataka.
Sharmila shares her insights gained from over two decades in inclusive education, her motivations behind establishing Anantha Academy, and her journey towards creating safe, empowering environments for children with diverse needs. The discussion also covers the importance of individualised education plans, early diagnosis, various therapy options, and the challenges parents face. Full of practical advice and wisdom, this episode is a resource for parents, educators, and anyone interested in special education.
The Themes
- Creating safe spaces for children with disabilities to thrive at their own pace
- The importance of early diagnosis and the right therapy
- Individualized education plans (IEPs)
- The holistic development of children beyond academics
- The need for realistic expectations
- The significance of parental support networks, and
- the often overlooked financial and emotional challenges faced by parents of children with special needs.
#Autism #Inclusion #normalisingdisability #Parenting #Neurodiversity #Empathy
Invisible Disabilities: A Parent’s Journey to find her and her child’s voice!
About the Guest: Suchitra Narayan
With a distinguished 40-year career in both mainstream and special education across Indian and international schools and colleges, Suchitra Narayan has been a steadfast advocate for inclusive practices. Her expertise encompasses problem-solving, teacher training, parent guidance, and comprehensive support for individuals with disabilities from infancy through adulthood. Passionate about child and disability rights, she actively collaborates with medical professionals, educators, therapists, legal experts, media, and activists both in India and globally. Beyond her professional endeavors, she finds joy in trekking, nature, art, poetry, music, and reading.
In this deep and eye-opening conversation, Suchitra shares her journey as a parent and advocate for inclusion, shining a light on the struggles, challenges, and triumphs of raising a child with invisible disabilities. From her early dreams of a career in forensic science to her lifelong dedication to disability advocacy, Suchitra takes us through her powerful story of resilience, love, and the pursuit of equality. This conversation highlights the importance of exposure, understanding, and the power of asking the right questions. Discover the nuances of invisible disabilities, the reality of sensory issues, and the need for more awareness, empathy, and systemic change in India and beyond.
The Themes
- The transformative power of exposure and empathy
- The complexities of family dynamics around disability
- The impact of access to resources and systemic advocacy
- Balancing self-care with caregiving responsibilities
Understanding Learning Disabilities with Aruna Bhaskar
In this insightful episode of Just Your Normal Missfit, I sit down with Aruna Bhaskar, a dedicated special educator who has played a significant role in my own journey with learning disabilities. We dive into the complexities of dyslexia, dyscalculia, dysgraphia, and ADHD, discussing how these learning disabilities manifest, the emotional toll on children, and the importance of early diagnosis and intervention. Aruna shares practical strategies for parents, teachers, and caregivers, emphasizing the need for personalized learning, emotional support, and building a strong partnership between home and school. Whether you’re a parent navigating the world of learning disabilities or simply curious about the challenges neurodivergent individuals face, this episode offers valuable insights and hope for every child’s potential to thrive.
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