Breathe In. Breathe Out

It is easy to focus on things that go wrong. As we look at one blotch, another pops up. And then another. And finally everythingRead More

Raising Boys to Men

Since my last post Because I Worry, I’ve been sitting with a persistent question—how do we raise children who understand boundaries, rejection, failure, and respect?

A movie, a memory, a moment with my son—everything is pointing to one thing: we have to start the conversation now. About sex, consent, failure, gender, media, anger, and how all of it affects our kids.

This post isn’t a checklist—it’s a work-in-progress from a home like yours.
Twelve thoughts. One intention: raise better humans.

Let’s begin, one uncomfortable conversation at a time.

Because I Worry

This morning, I was introduced to the world of Incels—men angry at women for their loneliness and rejection. As I watched and read, it hit me: these aren’t just strangers in another country. They could be boys in our homes. Sons raised by mothers like you and me. This isn’t about blame—it’s about responsibility. If we want to change the narrative, we have to raise boys who can handle rejection without rage. Who grow into men, not monsters. One child, one home, one conversation at a time.

Fighting Fear

Yehoshua was due for his shots. My memory of him was that of a baby who waltzed through the appointment without much of a hueRead More

Awaiting you

I wished you were a girl.  The daughter I am to my mother, a cheeky brat like Abigail, the adorable but bull-headed Elena, oh and little Zara,Read More

9 for 9

My older son told me on Friday afternoon, “I better have all the fun possible before my birthday. Tomorrow everyone is going to tell meRead More

The Report Card

We sat today in a classroomon tiny chairs meant for little peopleWalls filled with messagesMeant for them to readevery now and thenpossibly ideas to seed.Read More